Now Is The Time
With the release of the movie MILK, the California decision on Prop 8 and now what appears to be a movement to have the Supreme Court rule on the issue of “same sex marriage”, and/or the definition of “marriage” in general, the LGBT Community is need of a collective voice.
I was somewhat alarmed with news reports on National LGBT Groups stating that the time is not right to bring the marriage issue before the Supreme Court and we should wait. Wonder what the founding fathers would have said if they were told that the time “wasn’t right for a revolution against England” or Martin Luther King was told that it wasn’t a good time to “march on Selma.”
It has always amazed me when my “right” leaning friends talk about the “homosexual agenda.” None of them have ever been able to tell me what that “agenda” contains.
If it means that agenda is a code word for “civil rights” then I will agree.
I often explain to my friends that the LGBT Community is so fractured that organizing them under one voice and direction would be a herculean task.
Back in February, Bob and I had breakfast with a good friend and former employee.
When the conversation got around to politics and activism, I spouted my concern about how I felt that the LGBT community tends to be wrapped up in petty “bar politics” and generally “self destructive” tendencies.
When I was done with my “sermonizing”, about how it seems that we as “gays” tend not to want to see anyone succeed in a leadership role, our friend, who is in college and much younger than I, calmly said, “I agree.”
He related several stories about his dealings with the “community” through a Pride Center and how it never moved forward due to the “hostility” and “political” agenda of various members.
I shared the fact that I could relate to his comment, for when I ran for “public office” several other gay bar owners, and patrons of their establishments, would not support me, even tho it seemed a good thing that an openly gay male was standing up and trying to make a difference.
Comments from those owners and patrons ranged from “He’s only running to save his business” to “He think he’s better than all of us.”
The one I like the most, and said to my face, “Tristan you’re a fucking gay bar owner, act like one.” Still haven’t figured that out yet.
Later, after it was known that I had received several death threats in the mail, the “community” was rather silent. In-fact it was our “straight” friends, along with the local Police Department, that was the most concerned for my safety.
With the new administration’s open support for the rights of the LGBT “community,” it is time to find our collective voice.
If we let these first four years of the Obama Administration pass without striving to obtain the “rights,” if we say the “time isn’t right” to fight for that which all other Americans enjoy, then we have only ourselves to blame and the time will never be right to take a stand.